One morning as I was mopping the floor with all the sweat dripping all over my skin, hubby went down from our bedroom with Y. Forgetting to bring our baskets of laundry upstairs, I immediately asked him, “Paki-akyat ng baskets tapos paki empty na rin after.” Then without preamble hubby answered, “Wala man lang kalambing lambing.”
I got pissed off at his comment and instantly I thought to myself, “What?! You’re expecting me to say it sweetly when I’m all tired and sweaty cleaning the house? Instead of appreciating what I do, you were complaining about my tone? I can’t believe you!” I didn’t blurt it out of course, for all I know I’m just being emotional.
After my annoyance faded I approached him while he was doing something and asked him, “Why did you comment on me like that, it’s kind of unfair and inconsiderate of you, I was tired and making an effort to clean our house. You know I’m not into homemaking and I’m just doing this for us.” “Then hubby said, “Sorry, iba kasi yung dating ng request mo eh.” I replied,”Then what should I do? This is my natural voice.””Hindi ko rin alam eh.” I said, “I’m not always like that naman eh” to which he answered, “No you’re not, madalas kang ganun.”
I can really tell that he has been bothered on how I make a request to him when it comes to household chores. Maybe something’s different about me because I can be really doting and malambing especially when I want something from him, LOL.
I’ve forgotten about it until that incident was repeated. Just last night, after a whole day of family outing I made a request to hubby telling him, “Paki scrape ng mga maruming plato tapos paki organize na rin, ako na maghuhugas.” Then again he said, “wala man lang kalambing lambing.” My initial reaction was still the same, I got pissed off again.
So this morning, I again approached him and told him, “Bakit mo ba ko kino-commentan ng ganyan? Nung una I was in the middle of doing something, then last night, napagod ako magbantay kay Y. Kung sabihan kaya kitang wag kang maging malumanay magsalita, gagawin mo yun?” Then he mused as if considering my argument when he finally said, “Siguro ok na ko kung magsasabi ka ng ‘please’ kahit anong tono.” Then with half annoyance and half amusement I yelled teasingly at him, “PLEASE!!!”
So okay, maybe I’m different when I make my personal requests and house chores requests. Coz when I ask for something personal I would go my way to caressing him and speaking to him dotingly, much like a mistress to her sugar daddy. And when it’s about household chores I am stern and straightforward, just like a mayordoma to a house boy, LOL. But can I be like the former whenever I ask him around the house? Maybe, I’ll try.