Whenever friends would ask me what time does Yesha sleep, I would always answer, “It depends on her.”
It’s true. We went about our night time for almost two years without any bedtine structure. It was just the other day when she kinect-ed (danced) her night away when I realized that, I should have established a night time routine while she was still an infant.
I knew about bedtime routines all along, but I knowingly shied away from it as it also means setting a routine for myself too. And I’m not really a fan of routines. I dislike predictability.
I know that I’m not alone here. There are also adults out there who share the same predicament as me. But as I learned on how some adults regard it as insignificant, in reality, routine and predictability hold our lives together.
The routine of receiving a paycheck once or twice a month, the regularity that you are going to eat three or more times a day, the predictability that at the end of the day your loved ones are home. These routines and predictability give us a sense of control and security in our lives.
If this is true for adults, then it also holds true for toddlers and kids. They need routine, they need predictability, they need to know that somehow they are in control.
So just imagine when I swooped Yesha away from the xbox and brought her in our bedroom. What do you expect, a toddler throwing a tantrum.
Right there and then, I decided to make a little sacrifice. To establish Yesha’s bedtime routine. I don’t want to be like my mom-friend whose kids (4 and 5 at that time) refused to listen to her when she bade them to go to sleep. Instead of listening to their mom, they continued watching television.
I don’t know if 21 months is already too late. But I will give it a try. Sure there will be throwing of tantrums, but I have a strong hope that in time, she’ll get used to it. And I’ll get used to it.
And I hope that someday when I’d be asked again on what time Yesha goes to bed, I’d be able to answer them, “It’s 8pm.” 8pm for the bedtime ritual and 9pm for lights out.
What about you?
What time does your bedtime routine start and how do you go about it?
Do they still do their routine even if they’re more then 4 years of age?